Unmasking the Nice Guy: 6 Red Flags Your Relationship Is Going Toxic

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The persona of the "nice guy" can frequently be a veneer used for the purposes of manipulation and control.

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It's not uncommon for nice guys to try to manipulate their partners by being overly kind to them.

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They could also engage in conduct that is known as passive aggression in order to acquire what they want.

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Nice guys frequently feel entitled and get upset or resentful when their spouse doesn't satisfy their expectations.

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They may also have a propensity to put the blame for their problems on their spouse.

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Gaslighting, emotional abuse, and boundary violations are other red flags in a relationship.

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If you're in a relationship and see any of these warning signs, it's time to take action and go on.

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